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[surhutt]

What the reason your spouse will not do the bbc thing I know there's a lot of people on here that's having that problem or why you and you spouse will not venture down that road to

[stardate]

My future wife has admitted to me that I'm the smallest of any man she has been with in her life. She has to mentally prepare herself for sex every time because although emotionally fulfilled she is never physically satisfied. We use lots of toys and my tongue. I've told her I'm ok with her playing on the side as long as I know about it ahead of time. That isn't cheating. She admits she is curious about bbc and got weak in the knees when she met Jommy Graham at a Saints Game. But she says she loves me because I treat hurt good and am good to her son. She says I help out around the house and make a good living and would feel guilty with another man. I told her I might want to watch since I'm usually only able to last one time in bed and have a hard time keeping up with her. She considered it but says she can't bring herself to follow through. So we are more like voyeurs on here. I believe her but always have a slight insecurity that she will cheat like my ex. Anyone else have thoughts.

[Interracial_Curious]

My wife has never been with a black guy. Although I love the idea of a three-way with her, myself and a black dude, I don't know if it will ever actually happen. We take are vows serious but hey it doesn't hurt to peak and fool around here at this site. Right?

[flcouple4black]

As a wife I used to do it and hooked up with 4 different BBC over the years multiple times each. After that became a hassle and have not for years but checking the water again and thinking of going back in. Mostly reasons I stopped was religion, afraid of somebody finding out, and always been a one guy sort of girl so hard for me to change that.

[jonphil]

I have same situation want my mature wife to try her first bbc she has never experienced sex with anyone but myself as we got married young,but I know the right bbc could take her as we have role played I hope someday to make it happen I am going to keep trying welcome any help or suggestions

[snuggums]

Originally Posted by stardate

My future wife has admitted to me that I'm the smallest of any man she has been with in her life. She has to mentally prepare herself for sex every time because although emotionally fulfilled she is never physically satisfied. We use lots of toys and my tongue. I've told her I'm ok with her playing on the side as long as I know about it ahead of time. That isn't cheating. She admits she is curious about bbc and got weak in the knees when she met Jommy Graham at a Saints Game. But she says she loves me because I treat hurt good and am good to her son. She says I help out around the house and make a good living and would feel guilty with another man. I told her I might want to watch since I'm usually only able to last one time in bed and have a hard time keeping up with her. She considered it but says she can't bring herself to follow through. So we are more like voyeurs on here. I believe her but always have a slight insecurity that she will cheat like my ex. Anyone else have thoughts.

Sounds like the two of you are working hard to love and cherish each other. Problem is as I see it is you shouldn't have to work hard to enjoy sex, so well you should be insecure.
That's just my view you should know your situation better than anyone

[jimmielee]

Originally Posted by surhutt

What the reason your spouse will not do the bbc thing I know there's a lot of people on here that's having that problem or why you and you spouse will not venture down that road to

And I think probably a couple since we have been together. I have told her I have no problem with it because I am small endowed and can understand her need for a larger, younger harder man. and it couldn't be cheating if I know about it. Have even told her it turns me on thinking about her having a black cock in her. She admits it turns her on when a younger black man chats her up but at least as far as I know she hasn't done it. Like everyone else on here I am open to suggestions.

[JandGinSD]

You need to think of yourselves as a couple, with common interests. As much as an IR encounter for your wife might turn you on and you think she'd come around to appreciate it too, your wife may have a fantasy of her own that you wouldn't think would turn you on or even occur to you that could surprise you. Take it easy on coercion and explore the path you both forge. It is about your mutual pleasure. But bringing up your desires and discussing them is a noble thing that too many people cannot muster the bravery to do. So since she knows, perhaps one day she'll take you up on it. Just don't count on it.

[DSMCouple22]

I have no idea why wives "need" to have sex with people of a certain race in the eyes of their spouse. It's all about preferences, desires, etc. Nothing wrong with a wife that doesn't want to just as there is nothing wrong with a woman that prefers black men.

[Oakland412]

For the two of us, it's been an ongoing discussion and journey of discovery. My parents were swingers. When you're a kid you figure these things out. I don't equate love and sex, never have.

For many women, it's just that they desire a stronger emotional connection and have a hard time with the thought of just having a steady "side dick" when they're IN a relationship. As I always say to her, it means that you have good qualities, but those aren't qualities that make you and I perfectly compatible.

When we met, I was so interested in her because she was a fucking sex machine. We had a couple of threesomes, but at some point she started to focus more on the "relationship" part of our relationship and less on the screwing part. That's where we went off the rails.

Over the past year we've had many open and honest discussions. She is curious about women, she is curious about black dick, but like so many women she feels like those are things that make you a bad person for some silly reason. I explained patiently that to me, I want to be with someone who is a slut. I'm a slut. I would prefer to be married or in a LTR with a woman who says "honey, I totally fucked that guy from the office in a janitor's closet today at lunch time, just thought you should know." Because I won't be upset.

She struggles with her desire to explore her submissiveness and her love of sexual experimentation - and admits that she put a lot of it in a box and locked it away because it wasn't mainstream. Finally one day I just sat down and told her what I want, need, and hope for in a woman. Period. No compromise will come from me on those points. Ever. She took her time, thought it all over, we talked and talked often and really communicated like we never have. And she admitted that she wants to try these things - and so we're slowly moving that way. She's only had one encounter with a black guy, but i'm hoping for more in the future obviously.

Patience, honesty, caring, and more honesty will eventually get you there guys. Women like to fuck just like guys. But society puts them in tough spots.