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Ya see, I thought this website was to ask, read, and enjoy ir lifestyle, not dig on others way of enjoying the lifestyle. No my wife is not on ili and maybe I'll leave as well. You can hang out here dealing with the fakes and few real people. I've seen your posts and you really do think your so much higher than anyone else. I love the way you pull out the fakes but your also so judgemental against the real people here too. All I was stating is how our relationship is yet you gotta chime in with your way, the perfect way. Everyone is different but yet you like to pretend your the expert. Well congratulations, you win, you got rid of another real person. I don't need to be judged by any person, especially one like you. Save me the response of saying how you don't chase people away, I can see that myself. Well enjoy your spot on that pedestal, before you know it you'll be here with just the fakes and gays. Congratulations mustang

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Originally Posted by fun1inpa (Post 60407)

Ya see, I thought this website was to ask, read, and enjoy ir lifestyle, not dig on others way of enjoying the lifestyle. No my wife is not on ili and maybe I'll leave as well. You can hang out here dealing with the fakes and few real people. I've seen your posts and you really do think your so much higher than anyone else. I love the way you pull out the fakes but your also so judgemental against the real people here too. All I was stating is how our relationship is yet you gotta chime in with your way, the perfect way. Everyone is different but yet you like to pretend your the expert. Well congratulations, you win, you got rid of another real person. I don't need to be judged by any person, especially one like you. Save me the response of saying how you don't chase people away, I can see that myself. Well enjoy your spot on that pedestal, before you know it you'll be here with just the fakes and gays. Congratulations mustang

This x1000

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Originally Posted by ThickNiggaDick (Post 60325)

People who are experienced in the lifestyle know that this is typically how it works. So, those guys out there who are complaining about it need to stop it. If you want to fuck another man's wife, then that man needs to be your collaborator and confidant in this, not your enemy/adversary. So, if you're feeling ANY animosity towards the role of the husbands at anytime, then this is not the sport for you. And, I advise you to get out of it ASAP.

Here's the reality. "FOR REAL" swinging is mostly a couples thing with singles thrown into the mix. That means that if you are a single man looking to hump the Mrs., then on some level you're going to have to deal with the man of the house. That's just the reality, so get used to it. Or, get out of swinging. Here's a few simple things to look for to make sure you're dealing with somebody who's legit, and not just some closet homosexual who's looking to suck you dick (or more likely just yank off to the thought of it).

Now, after you've had your first contact with the supposed "husband" (and definitely after the second), you need to be able to speak to the Mrs. directly if they're serious. If they're legit, you won't even have to ask. They'll offer that contact. But, if the wife is always out "shopping" or "went to see her sister " and can never get on the phone, then that's a HUGE red flag. That's because most likely THERE IS NO WIFE! Or if there is, she's not interested and/or can't commit to going through with it. They may even be fighting about it (DO NOT get involved . . . drop them IMMEDIATELY!). And what's more likely than that, SHE PROBABLY DOESN'T EVEN KNOW WHAT HE'S DOING AT ALL. This alleged "husband" is just wasting your time. So tell him to fuck off :mad:!

Other red flags are when "hubby" asks "what would you do to my wife" or keeps asking to SEE your package. Now, you shouldn't get pissed off if the guy makes a general inquiry about your size. After all, the main fantasy of the couple might be to see her taking a HUGE Dinka warrior dong :D LOL! So, since the husband is making the initial contact, it's legit for him to ask about this . . . ONCE. And on a related note, TELL THE TRUTH THE FIRST TIME! You don't want your time wasted. So, don't waste theirs by LYING about the size of your dingus :rolleyes:!

Now every once in a while, you'll get surprised when it's the female half of the couple that initiates the first "real world" contact. I mean, she'll call you right up or give you her number and have you call her. Cool! I've had that happen several times, and those experiences have shown me that these folks tend to be the most "for real" couples (wife/girlfriend makes the first "live" contact or is in on the first call). Of course, these days I guess you can throw being willing to get on cam into the mix, but still for me the true tell-tale sign I want to see is a willingness to get on the phone. There's something about being willing to give up that phone number that crosses a certain barrier thresh hold for me.

In any event, when the wife of girlfriend makes the first significant contact with you, my vast experience says she tends to be part of a couple that is comfortable with their relationship, they know what they want, and they have swinging experience. This is what you want if you're lucky enough to get it. No wasting time because she's ready to fuck! But remember, it doesn't all end there! When you meet face-to-face, you still have work to do! I mean, do you like these people? Do they seem to like you? Can you communicate? Do you want the same things sexually? And, it's not just about you and the wife! What's the husband's role going to be in it? Watch? Jack off? Join in? Video it? Take pictures? And are you down with that? Whatever it is?

How ever you decide, just remember that if you're swingin' and you want to fuck that white boy's wife, then you better remember that he's an integral part of the deal and will be involved not only with making the arrangements, but even with what goes on in the bedroom. Accept that, and you'll help yourself achieve better outcomes. And, depending on how your relationship develops with the couple, over time you might find yourself dealing more one-on-one with the Mrs. . . . but . . . if she's got a significant other then that white boy is going to ALWAYS be somewhere in the background. You single men wanting to fuck attached white women must accept this reality and learn to leverage it for a more successful, happier swinging lifestyle!

Note: I shouldn't write as if the husband will always be white. Usually he will be if you're fuckin' white women, but one time I did run into this one couple where the black hubby liked to see other bruthas dick down his blonde white wife . . . come to think of it . . . she liked gettin' dicked down by strange black men too LOLOLOL!!!!

Good post. For us it's her making the contacts/connections as that's a big part of the fun for her. I'll chat with them at some point - but unless I see a red flag - it's not to approve/veto anyone.

But she will immediately drop anyone that seems to have issues with her being married or my involvement.

Sensitive are we?

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Originally Posted by fun1inpa (Post 60407)

I'm not judging you. :rolleyes: could care less what you and wifie do. Never said my way was the perfect way. If you took it that way then all that's on you.

I really doubt you're gonna leave the site :rolleyes: but whatever. Here let me play the 🎻 violin for you as you exit....

Bleeding hearts unite.

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Originally Posted by DSMCouple22 (Post 60411)

This x1000

Awwwwwwwwww "x 1000".

:rolleyes: <----- x 2000 :rolleyes:

Doubt I'll leave? C ya. And to all who read this, enjoy mustangs company. And I'm sure I'm not the first you've drove out. And you think I took your comments the wrong way? I took them how you ment them, as a dig. Thanks for the violin playing, you ain't no musician, being a bitch suits you so much better.

Are you still here?

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Originally Posted by fun1inpa (Post 60416)

My post was the truth. Since you seem to read/follow my post then you know my post are true to my nature.

Yea we get it. You're leaving bc of me like I said. You will remain, return or make a new account. So cry and play the blame game. :rolleyes:

And since you follow my post then you know I have no problems being a bitch or being called one in this situation. Thanks for the compliment.

Wow, this is amazing--single guys complaining about the husbands contacting them about maybe getting to fuck their wives--really? LOL, seriously, you guys are not in a position to make demands or complain, there are tons of single guys in the LS, and most don't get attention since the LS is mostly a couples thing, as Thick pointed out. For us, we play with couples and single guys, and yep I do most of the contacting, and if someone doesn't like that I'd love to know so we can make sure that we never meet with that person. This is all about having fun, but respect is paramount, and that includes respect for the husband, the wife, and respect for the husband and wife as a couple. We always respect our playmates and we demand that same in return.

As far as I'm concern when you want to meet a married woman the husband involvement and participation is important to some extend ,
In most cases the women that I met I normally asked to communicate with the hubby, I mean if you want to fuck a man's wife show some respect to him.
This has turn out to be very rewarding to me in many ways .
I was met a woman from this site and after many emails and phone calls , I then asked about her hubby ,
After I talked to the hubby , he arranged the day,time and venue where we will meet , and about 30 minutes after our meeting I went to the restroom when I came back, the hubby told me that the wife says she like me as a person but wouldn't want to take it further sexually, he was full of regret cos he said that he really wanted me to be with her .
Two weeks , after I had forgotten about them , I received a called from hubby that he has succeeded in convincing the wife to take it further with me .
I fucked her anytime, anywhere for one year !

For what it's worth....

...I'd like to share my perspective.

I've been in the lifestyle for almost 14 years. For about 7 of those, my relationship has been open with my wife and I. Here's the deal we have. She's not worried about me that she wants to act as a filter for people I play with. However when it comes to people she plays with, we both participate in choosing the people she wants to play with though she really leads the process and I just provide input. Once he's in, I may watch them go at it. Most of the time she does what she wants. Currently she has a "boyfriend" who we're both comfortable with so they do their own thing.

Now my experience when it comes to couples, 95% of the time, the husband acts as a filter or participates. I fully expect that as it's a couples activity most of the time as they both get turned on by doing something like this. If the husband is present (and even if he's not), it's like porn for him. It's rare that a woman reaches out to me without the husband being present or involved. If hubby wants to spend his time chatting with me about my experiences or what I would do to his wife (or "wife") then I'm out. If I can't talk to her after trading more than three or four e-mails, I'm done.

Hope that helps.