What if your spouse would never approve of sex with a bbc, is it alright to cheat?
 

First, let us define cheating. I agree with many threads that I have seen on this website. If your spouse knows and approves then it is not cheating. So, now my question is; "What if your spouse would never approve of sex with other men, is it alright to cheat?"

fuck yea, go for it!! you only live once.

Cheat
 

Cheat away just understand the risk vs rewards.

With my moral hat on; it depends on what type of relationship your'e in; of course in a marriage its not cool to cheat, and I would question a spouse that would allow the other to cheat.
My immoral hat loves cheating women; I don't know where I would be without them but I wouldn't want to be with one.

like really
 

ok im gonna get blasted.

If u r married and you dont have an open relationship then dont cheat.
Sorry but dont your vows mean anything to u.

Ok here i go on my high horse

All i know from experience is that any revelation of an affair is a devastating blow to any relationship and the ultimate betrayal. Im not sure ill ever trust again - always in back of my mind.

Yes we hear the excuses

Often the men say it's because their partner has lost interest in them, sexually.

Women most often blame a lack of emotional intimacy for why they suddenly became erotically entangled with another man.
"He understands me and listens to me in a way that my husband (or boyfriend) doesn't," is the common refrain.

Bull - go look at what your doing and think about the damage it will cause.

Dont cheat

Don't cheat
 

I posted this question because I wanted to see the reaction before I stated my point. Cheating is hard to keep secret for very long. And the revelation of sexual cheating is devastating to a marriage. Cheating almost ensures that the marriage will end in divorce once the sex outside the marriage is revealed. So, I contend that situation #1: if you truly love your spouse then you should respect them enough not to cheat. However situation #2, if you marriage has degraded to the point that you no longer have that love and respect for your spouse, then get a divorce now before you cheat. A lawyer once told me that you will have more leverage in the negotiation of a separation settlement if you have not cheated. As I see it, if situation #2 is the case, then your marriage is already going to end in a divorce if you cheat and get caught, so get the divorce now while you still have the leverage. If you are divorce, then it won't be cheating. Either way don't cheat!

Fortunately my hubby and I have an agreement. We usually play together. But our agreement allows either one of us to play without the immediate permission of the other. Our only rule is that we must share the details the next time we make love. Hubby travels a lot for business and there have been a few times when I caught him fucking other women without telling me. I really felt betrayed. This lead to a new rule: hubby must collect the panties of any woman that he screws. That way when I unpack his bags and find some panties, I know to ask him about them. Hubby is usually pretty successful on his trips. His last trip, we arranged through a swinger site for him to meet up with a cuck and his wife for Friday night to Sunday (1 pair of panties). Then when I unpacked him, I found 5 more pairs of panties. Mon., Tues., and Wed., nights were ladies from the conference. Thurs. was 2 married ladies on a girls night out. I get wet thinking of my hubby sending those ladies home to their hubbies without their panties. LOL! I, on the other hand, collect the used condoms of my gentlemen friends. Only one time has that not worked for me. He was a black friend, 67 years old, that must have fucked me for over an hour but could not get himself to cum. I finally had to cry "Uncle!" I was so raw that I must have walked bowlegged for a week. It was funny showing hubby this unrolled and unfilled condom while trying to relate all the details. We share these items the next time that we are together. It makes for some really HOT love making between us.

It's Never OK to cheat.

Marriage is about a special relationship between two people (and if you have kids, for the love of god, don't screw that up) and cheating is always wrong. So you don't get to experience a sexual fantasy, most men and women never do. If you think a simple fantasy or sexual encounter is worth screwing that whole relationship up, then you have your priorities wrong and should not be married. And if your marriage is failing, then wait until you are legally separated

Of course my views may be shaped by the fact by scumbag ex cheated on me and I divorced his ass when I found out (we were swingers, but our deal was that both of us had to be there if any one of us was having sex with someone else and the other had to approve of the partner. But he betrayed me when he started having a sex buddy on the side without me being there, or my approval, for over a year before I found out. That was too much of a betrayal for me to handle). But I always believed that marriage was a journey a couple embarks one when their relationship reaches a certain special level. And you never screw that up for any reason that is not life-or-death. But that is one woman's opinion.

nope
 

I love my husband so much I could never cheat on him. That said, he does allow me to be with a black lover once or twice a week as he knows that my lover meets needs and wants in me that he can't meet. But, I have wondered if the affair were to end would I still not cheat or would I let my needs and desires take over.

Please listen & take note
 

Cheating is goiong to cause trouble in your marriage, that is a fact.
But the decision to cheat can sometimes save a marriage.
We all change as life goes on, we cannot be the same person we were 20 years ago, and neither can our partners. A roaring fire will eventually become a warm glowing ember of what it once was.
I do not suggest cheating at the drop of a hat, and seriously, if you are able, then you should try and work out an 'arrangement' within your marriage so you can both agree a path forward that includes you getting some Black Cock here & there.
This is not always possible, jealousy, hurt, financial & family considerations, they all play a part in the decision to cheat or not.
I love my white husband, but I no longer find him remotely sexually attractive, he & I have both changed over the years we have been married. Our relationship is such that I would describe it as platonic best friends more than intimate lovers.
I still have sexual desires, needs & wants, but they just don't involve my husband mentally of physically. I thought about divorce, but I don't want that, I know he loves me, he takes care of me financially, we have an integrated social life with our friends & families, a nice home and a good supportive friendship. But I do not want to consider that at my age my sex life is over and that I will never have the pleasure or feeling of being taken by a Black Cock.
I will admit that intially I had fed the desire for Black Cock with my own internet research, watching IR porn, a lot, joining IR community sites like Get Her Blacked & this one.
The deeper I got involved mentally, the less chance I had of ever walking away never having 'tried it'... I was 44 at the time, for a woman that is only half way through her life expectancy...I couldn't not ever have sex again, and nor should I be expected to lay back and think of England whilst my husband humped away at me...I would end up resenting him and possibly hating him for not being what I wanted, which was Black & Bigger!

I was really nervous when I first 'went Black' I carried huge guilt in my heart, but it had taken two years to get to the point where I could not go on in life without having 'tried it' at least once... But if we know anything about Black Cock, we know that you cannot just try it once and walk away. Once I had done it, I wanted to do it again, and teh more Black Cock I had in me the more I wanted.

I almost grieved about my cheating ways, but then I realised that, my marriage was only one part of my life, that I own my body and I have the right to a sex life. The question was should I break up my marriage to exercise that right. My marriage has now survived and flourished over the 5 years since I 'went Black'.

After a few months I realised that it was wrong of me to allow my husband to share my bed or see me in a state of undress anymore. I felt I was giving him false hope by having him next to me in our marital bed and seeing me naked. It felt wrong, so I set about engineering
a new way of life for us. I told him I was menopausal & had lost any interest in sex and that he should accept that our marriage was based on deeper things than sex, which had not played a part in it for a coupld of years anyway. I also explained that his snoring was affecting me as I seldom got a good nights sleep and was always tired at work.

I suggested that during the week he slept in the spare room if I had occasion to dig him in the back for snoring... he agreed and I began to wake him on account of his snoring almost every night. (and this part was the truth, he snores like a bear!) After a month or so he began to naturally go straight to the spare room. Gradually I began to 'move' his stuff in there, first his toileteries' the his work suits etc, until he really had no reason to come into our marital
bedroom for anything. Once he did, and I was naked as he walked in, I instinctively grabbed a towel and covered myself up, this shocked him, but he averted his eyes and apologized
as he left the room. I later apologized to him for reacting that way, but explained that I had gotten used to my own privacy now and I was just startled by him walking in on me without knocking first.
Since this, he almost never come in our marital bedroom & when he does he politely knocks and waits for me to open the door to him, which I always do once I am covered & I aways make sure I greet him with a smile and a freindly 'hi honey, how can I help you?'
Since going Black Only I am much more relaxed & happy in our marriage, he feels the benefit, often commenting on how me looking more happy makes him feel more happy and we never argue anymore. I am happy to link him when we are out, I kiss him on teh cheek when he sets out for work or comes home in the evening. I will also kiss his cheek to say goodnight each night when I go to bed alone.
I would say that once I had dealt with the angst of my decision to cheat I knew that it was the right decision FOR ME & OUR MARRIAGE... My later decision to Go Black Only' was inevitable and less lard to make.
I have friends now I never had before, some of these are made up friends, like susie a girl from work who left to live in another City and whom I spend the odd weekend with.
Its a little lie, but one that allows me to spend a whole weekend with a Black Man if I want to.
He never asks about her other than to ask if we enjoyed our girlie weekend. My imaginary friend Susie has young kids and so can never travel over to us fro a weekend.
Yes there are cover stories and deciept involved but so long as he is blissfuly ingnorant of what I am doing then our marriage is probably more rock solid than it ever was.

Perhaps one day I will confess all to him and put my marriage at risk in the hope he agrees to continue to be a cuckolded white husband...but for now, I cuckold him in secret.
I doubt he could accept it if I told him, so what he doesn't know actually protects him from himself, as his male ego would probably mean he would blow it all.
One day, I will be too old to continue to be sexual, and as happens, women do become less sexually attractive to men generally, we all know that.
When that day comes, our marriage will be stronger than most peoples as we have already discovered a lasting loving way to be with each other that will keep us together til our dying days.

In the meantime, I can enjoy being a Black Cock Slut and experiencing new sexual highs with ever new Black Cock adventure I have.

So for those who say marriage is sacred, think of your vows, cheating will ruin your chances of going to heaven, think of the damage it will do if he finds out...etc etc.

Well cheating definately saved my marriage, and as far as my vows are concerned, I am being true unto my husband by doing what it takes for me to stay married to him, and ladies, as for goig to heaven, girls I am taken to heaven every time I take a Black Cock inside me!!

As for him finding out, he won't, but if he does, I will tell him everything and point out that our marriage has been closer and happier than ever because of my chosen lifestyle, then I will let him choose whathe wants to do, and take the consequences of my actions either way.

But I can see us still holding hands when we are 92 !

The only time its ok, is if...
 

It's only ok if the following boxes are checked off:
Will it be just for sex, not emotions? Then do it.
Do you love you husband and only want some cock? Then do it.
Are you sure he wouldn't be ok with watching? Then do it.
Are you sure that you r not gonna get attached to the black guy emotionally? Then do it.

But only do it if all those answers are YES.
Melissa
PS: I love fucking black guys, but I also love my white husband. And I love it when he watches.

What a marvelous revelation from a hot wife who has come to terms with her dismal sex life with her white husband, and has found the perfect solution in going black. It's a difficult lifestyle to carry out, but yours reads like a poster story for other sexually frustrated (and black curious) white wives to emulate.

Congratulations on your success...and courage in making it work.

Don't cheat
 

I would never cheat on my husband. He is always present when we play. He takes amazing photos and videos. It is very hot knowing hubby enjoys watching me....blows my mind and gives me incredible orgasms.

Damn! You are a Nut!
 

For once I agree with Mustang, FAKE!

In my heart I know that it's not right to cheat, but this thread caught my attention because I know part of me wants to be convinced that it is. I married young and I do love my husband very much, but I've only been with one other man and never a black man. I've been thinking about it a whole lot for awhile now. I know my husband would never be ok with it, but I want to try it SO badly... Maybe if I did it just once to get it out of my system it wouldn't be so bad? I want to be a good wife, but I don't know what I'm going to do if I can't stop wanting this so much.

I cheated the first five years
 

I actually cheated the day before we got married and the day we got back from the honeymoon.

I cheated the day before we got married
 

And the day we got back from our honeymoon

I read your profile.
 

I read your profile, it says that your hubby helps plan your extramarital meeting. Even though he is not present when you fuck other men, if you hubby knows and approves, then it is not cheating.

Cheating Wife
 

After ten years of marriage and four kids, I was one of those moms who thought about going on strike. All I did all day was cook and clean, felt like a slave to my husband and kids. Was feeling fat and ugly and my husband didn't help, by calling me his fat cow. Was starting to drink during the day, stopped taking care of myself. When I met my son's baseball coach and started having an affair it was the most exciting time in my life. I felt like a teenager again, had my first real orgasem , the sex was so hot couldn't get enough. After twentyfive years of marriage I still cheat on my husband, always with black men, it's the most exciting sex for me. He knows I'm not happy , but I am very discreet so far he hasn't found out

Turned around
 

I never would have let my wife be with a black man, but after catching her with a black man and almost divorcing over it, I decided to in order to save my marriage and family, I would allow her to see black men ,if I was with her. From going on weekend trips every month or so to find black men, risking disease and expensive hotels. She has found a regular bull that we see once a week ,she is happier, and I am happier, learning to serve a black man has become the most exciting sex we have. If she didn't make the first step and start cheating on me to see black men, I never would have known how much I would come to enjoy it

We have been married ten years the first 5 I was a cheater....

First of all, I would NEVER ask my husband for his approval. It is a personnal decision that I alone make. It being alright has little to do with it-cheating just happens

Just came across this thread and find the comments most interesting. Everyone has very valid points which expose the complexities surrounding infidelity. The simple fact underlying this issue is that not most of us cannot escape the desires (mental, physical, emotional) to be with other people whether, we're married or not. We are all attracted to others in various ways and often that attraction leads to thoughts that lead to desires that then lead to action.

The risks that so many of you have eluded to typically are a huge part of why people cheat, so I believe the risks become overwhelmed by those desires. When you find yourself craving something so much that it overtakes you in every way, you will find ways to have it...or temptation will provide a way for you to have it. It's the law of attraction and it works perfectly.

As emotional beings we can always find justification for what we want...even in the face of great damage, to ourselves and those around us.

Is it worth the risks? Only those who ponder the decision this decision can answer this question.

Can't stop her
 

I have realized that if I don't get involved, she will get her "fix" without me! To her, good looking black men are like candy, and to watch her suck and play with a hard black dick.
you would think that it tasted like candy! The noises that she makes when she was him to cum makes me hard too!

I have trouble with erections, and that is why we started experimenting, and I had no idea
that her desires were so strong. She really works hard at keeping her figure and appearances
in top shape to attract the men that she likes now. She has always been a little heavy in the but, but it is well round shaped, and now she knows that black men like that, so it makes her feel more attractive.

We have been to a few bars in town, and she has told me about a few men that she might
like to be with, but I think that it is a bad idea to do this in our own town.

I guess the question is would you want to be cheated on and to remember what you do in the dark always comes to light.:)

the will sa yes wen she se the size ov is cock wen she is drunk she will fuck all night

in my deep personal opinion
happen to me
I toll hubby that he didn't fuck or touch me enough
for months
I toll him that I will look for someone to finish the job
I ADVISED HIM
many times
then I'll start fucking around
he saw one video on my cell
fucking a BIG 12" cock
he was so furious
he left home for a week
and he came back asking for forgiveness
he took ALL the he guilt
now we still together ( married)
he fuck me more
but I still enjoying BBC
off course I'm super extra care full not to be caught on the acct
and we are happy Luke that
he don't ask I don't tell
xoxoxoxo
riparian !!!!!!

your a bad girl

Rhetorical question
 

You should honestly reconsider your priorities and question who and why your married your partner before you cheat...

Cheat or non cheat
 

If it's with another white guy, yeah then it's cheat, but with a Black guy it's ok because a BBC should have the right to any white (married?) pussy

If you are doing it because it satisfies an urge and makes you happy, you should feel no guilt!

hell ya
 

sure!! go for it

We proudly believe and live that it doesnt matter if your spouse knows or not, approves or not, when it cums to pleasing, serving BBC, "THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS CHEATING!!!" But we feel that way in regards to BBC ONLY!!! (or if there are 2 or more people, besides yourself). So, Cum on all you whites, do the RIGHT THING, and try to not cheat with ANY/AS MANY BBC as you possibly can.

No dont cheat
I am desperately horny to be with a black man but never sill unless hubby approves.
This is very hard but I love him and us too much to cheat

NO...
 

Its never ok to cheat...if your marriage has ever reached that point then get a divorce. We always play together. Monogomy sucks, sex is sex and love is love but if you're willing to cheat then you really don't love your spouse.

Cheating is really just cheating yourself of the full experience; sad. Find the right spouse / partner and do it right!

For many years my husband was very much into this lifestyle, taking pics and vids and even setting up meetings for me including gangbangs. A little over a year ago he decided that he was no longer interested and expected me to abstain from it also. NOT! I now have to cheat but that's ok because the local black male population keeps me well supplied with black cock....Becky

why wouldn't they want you to? what is hotter or more fun than a good looking white wife being pounded hard and dirty by black cock . if it makes my wife happy to have bbc rammed in her , I want as many black men as I can find to fuck her senseless.

You took the correct decision Becky. NEVER refuse a black cock if it makes you happy.

You are the perfect husband and your wife the luckiest woman. Black cocks and white pussies are meant to be together FUCKING not MAKING LOVE. Keep on "loving" your wife.