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[jimmielee]

Originally Posted by contrastcpl

My wife was 41 when she first experienced a black man, it took years prior to finally get her to give in and try it. She had several hesitations, the first was her upbringing where she was led to believe that the whole taboo factor was present. The second was that for most of her adult life, she’d never been around black men who weren’t immature and I will just leave it at that, but once she started meeting black men who she liked and admired in the workplace who had similar ambitions and career goals as she did, then the issue was, “What if I get hooked on this, what happens if I like this too much and end up leaving you? Is this a risk you’re willing to take?!”
I told her let’s try it first and see if you like it, then we can cross the next bridge, but first let your inhibitions down and experience it first.
She finally did and it was a very enjoyable experience for her. I think the key to your wife going through with it is patience on your part and encouragement, combined with reassurance that your truly cool with her doing this. Good luck!

Very good advice.

[vtbigdog]

May be show her some hot BBC porn where a white woman cums and cums and has some amazing orgasms. I never thought my wife would get off on seeing BBC porn but she loves it and gets so wet and horny. She has pretty much told me she does not want to watch bad porn (small white dick porn) and only wants to see the BBC porn. Her favorite seen is with Kristen Scott and Dredd where KS cums hard like 9 times in the scene.

I never thought she would get so turned on by BBC.

[Brcr1234]

I feel like I struggle with the same problem as her. It's all fun in fantasy and to talk about but the fear of damaging our relationship is what slows me down. It's a big step to trust that your partner won't hold it against you down the road, or worse yet decided it's ok for them to start being sexual behind your back as a form of payback. The old "well I let you have sex with a man outside our relationship so now it's ok for me to hook up with females".

You need to show her that she can trust you to not be worried that she will hurt you being sexual with another man. And maybe make it clear this is something you are doing together, and just because she's doing this doesn't mean you have a hall pass to be unfaithful.

[contrastcpl]

Originally Posted by Brcr1234

I feel like I struggle with the same problem as her. It's all fun in fantasy and to talk about but the fear of damaging our relationship is what slows me down. It's a big step to trust that your partner won't hold it against you down the road, or worse yet decided it's ok for them to start being sexual behind your back as a form of payback. The old "well I let you have sex with a man outside our relationship so now it's ok for me to hook up with females".

You need to show her that she can trust you to not be worried that she will hurt you being sexual with another man. And maybe make it clear this is something you are doing together, and just because she's doing this doesn't mean you have a hall pass to be unfaithful.

You are so correct! My wife was very leery of my objectives when I first suggested this. She said, “You mean you just want to watch, or is this a reason to do stuff on your own?!”
This needs to be discussed and well thought out prior to just, “doing it”, and yes it is something that is done together not for you to use it against her later or justify your own activities.
Very good advice indeed!

[jimmielee]

Originally Posted by Brcr1234

I feel like I struggle with the same problem as her. It's all fun in fantasy and to talk about but the fear of damaging our relationship is what slows me down. It's a big step to trust that your partner won't hold it against you down the road, or worse yet decided it's ok for them to start being sexual behind your back as a form of payback. The old "well I let you have sex with a man outside our relationship so now it's ok for me to hook up with females".

You need to show her that she can trust you to not be worried that she will hurt you being sexual with another man. And maybe make it clear this is something you are doing together, and just because she's doing this doesn't mean you have a hall pass to be unfaithful.

Think it is the same with my wife. I have tried to convince her I have no desire at all for another woman and it would make our relationship even stronger for me to see or at least know she is getting what she needs.
Probably the same with your husband.

[roxanna105]

Help her by taking her dancing good way to meet black men also is he has gfs that take black they will help
Roxanna

[flyinmech]

My wife was the one who started this, but we both were hesitant. Myths, lies, etc.
She finally took the step and yes things changed. Fantasy and reality are far apart. It all worked out eventually. She got what she wanted and needed and I got off listening and watching. Some lonely weekends, patience and many orgasms later it worked out. Not for everyone.

[lisaluvs45]

I didn't start to become a slut wife for black until I was 40. Age is not an excuse for enjoying your body.