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[freedom722002]

Would you mind sharing about the difference between dominant and in charge?
Are we talking controlling versus confident?

Originally Posted by maddie

For me, the initial attraction was the taboo of being a white woman having sex with a black man. Secondary attraction -- beyond the taboo -- was the physical/sexual gratification by bbc, and the more 'in charge' (not necessarily 'dominant') attitude in the bedroom.

[maddie]

Originally Posted by freedom722002

Would you mind sharing about the difference between dominant and in charge?
Are we talking controlling versus confident?

Yes, from my perspective it's more a confident, assertive attitude. Being able to accurately 'read' my body language to know where he may be able to push a bit versus where he might want to pull back, all while getting his needs met/mutual enjoyment.

I've often found white men seem to hold back to follow my lead rather than taking the lead themselves.

I'm not sure how well I've explained where I'm coming from in this regard, but hope it makes sense.

[lild1922003]

Originally Posted by maddie

Yes, from my perspective it's more a confident, assertive attitude. Being able to accurately 'read' my body language to know where he may be able to push a bit versus where he might want to pull back, all while getting his needs met/mutual enjoyment.

I've often found white men seem to hold back to follow my lead rather than taking the lead themselves.

I'm not sure how well I've explained where I'm coming from in this regard, but hope it makes sense.

That's what I hear from white girls all the time. It's more than the BBC. It's the attitude and assertiveness.