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[Emilyh]

I have been into interracial dating and meetings since I have started to date when younger in high school to in college now and I notice alot of girls not only friends but others I come across in conversations about guys and dating in general are sort of closed minded about dating black guys but at the same time they are accepting of it? That sounds a bit strange but im finding that alot of them are interesting in meeting and getting with black guys and maybe even dating some but there seems to be a stigma out there about dating outside of your race and alot of women are very hesitant to do it even though alot of them seem very curious and want to but just pass it over or act shy and distance themselfs from it and ignore their feelings and emotions about it..

Well I want to change that and open all their eyes to what they are missing and I wont be forceful or anything but I wont stop talking about it until they are all more accepting of it and stop seeing it as something taboo or anything and they all start to act on their feelings and emotions on the matter and start to meet more black men and stop ignoring them for flings or for dating even since they are missing out on how cool and nice they are overall and not just more enjoyable in the bedroom! I have already spoken to some of my close friends who have thought about it and wanted to act on it but they have not had the courage so I have been giving them more information and stuff on some guys I know that they can meet and see if they like and have setup some group type setting dates with a few or so friends and guys at my apartment and im going to invite other girlfriends on different nights to meet some of the same guys and a few others to see if they have any chemistry together and hopefully this works out well and my friends will have the flings they are after or maybe even find some lasting relationships! Also I have talked to girls I odnt know very well yet about it and have changed their mind about some things they though about them that were not true like they only go after and like certain types of girls and all that garbage so I could brings more interracial pairings together and im also planning a few other party type meetings and have done a few things already the past few months and got one of my close friends to meet a cool black guy she has been dating for awhile now and things are getting serious with them so im seeing that these types of things work and im going to do all I can to get more stuff out thewre to break the stigma about white girls dating black guys and hopefully I can change things! But I was also thinking that together we are stronger and can achieve more! I was wondering if others are doing similar things also? or maybe some of you had some more ideas or thoughts to give me on how I can help change the minds of some of my friends and also help other girls that im recently meeting who are curious and wonder about black guys but dont really bother to act on those feelings because they feel its a taboo subject or their familys would not approve of them doing that so they avoid it, and suggestions thoughts or even encouraging comments would be great! thanks for reading my post just a few ideas im putting out there for now!

[katiemad92]

Hi Emily,
I am a freshman at a Tennessee university and have been dating black guys since my junior year in high school. Interracial dating is still very much frowned on here but I have had several friends over for meet and greets at my apartment. I have discovered that a sizeable number of my friends are curious and open to meeting black guys, especially if they can do so with a reasonable amount of privacy. These "meet and greets" have worked out well and are a lot of fun. They are informal and I invited guys I know from the community and usually the guys will ask if they can invite a friend or two. I try to keep the numbers within reason because of space.

Katie

[Emilyh]

Originally Posted by katiemad92

Hi Emily,
I am a freshman at a Tennessee university and have been dating black guys since my junior year in high school. Interracial dating is still very much frowned on here but I have had several friends over for meet and greets at my apartment. I have discovered that a sizeable number of my friends are curious and open to meeting black guys, especially if they can do so with a reasonable amount of privacy. These "meet and greets" have worked out well and are a lot of fun. They are informal and I invited guys I know from the community and usually the guys will ask if they can invite a friend or two. I try to keep the numbers within reason because of space.

Katie

Thats great! I just had another meet and greet friday night and it went great! my friends wer eimpressed wiht the guys and the guys seemed to like most of my friends even more so my friends Kristen, Nicole and Natalie they all gave their numbers to guys they met and two or them already have dates for the dinner and a movie type thing for next week! and I have been talking to other girls who are interested in meeting some black guys but just dont know where to meet them and feel strange if they have to go up and talk to them on their own so im already planning some new meets! We need more girls like us spreading the word to our white friends about black guys and we also need to get the whole taboo frowned upon thing out of the way and let girls know that its normal and more and more girls are hooking up with and dating black men so keep doing what you are doing and spread the word! I know im trying to do all I can in my free time between work and classes at school!

[katiemad92]

Emily, we do something similar at my apartment. Several black guys and a few of my friends will come over and mix and mingle. It usually turns out well, and leads to at least to some fun times.

[Emilyh]

Things have been working out so great lately, I dont know what to say! Have been busy with school and work and meeting new guys and introducing girls to black guys I know and I have formed new relationships some of them are dating now! Everyone make sure to keep joining interracial couples together so more and more people see this is not just some odd thing you only see from girls who cant get a date anywhere else but this is what WE ALL choose and it snot going away..ever!

[almondjoy69247]

Seriously, you two should be awarded the Nobel White Women for Black Men prize/award for your efforts. I don't have a problem meeting white people or white women in particular, but for those of us that do, we thank you. Hope everything works out with your newfound friends = )

[Stormone69]

I applaud you for you efforts. I somepeople have to take their time and gradually build up to it. The thing is, I sure hope rhe first time is a great time when they do decided to date blacl men. If its not a good experience, they may never do it again. So if you're letting them meet black men you know, make sure you really know them so it'll be a good experince for your friends.