If someone recognized my wife, I would hope they would discreetly contact us.

I'd rather never know lol. It would be very awkward.

During years past I let my guard down with differant men and let them take candid photo's and a few vid's of myself and them thinking that they would remain in their private collections. I had this delusion for a long long time as one relationship would die and I went to another, and another.
Then one night I was on some site and stumbled upon a entire set of pic's of me with one of my long past lovers. It kinda shocked me to realize that this former lover had posted our personal photo's on line, fully exposing me in every way, yet they had taken the time to blur out their faces and tat's.
Since that time I occasionaly see a pic or two of me on differant sites, I have even seen my face posted on this site several times.
When I first began finding pic's of my past I tried to get them blocked or deleted but the truth is that once they have been posted, just once, they cannot ever be deleted. A site admin explained it like this, the moment it is posted it may be downloaded by 1,10, 100, 1000 differant people who instantly repost it on one or more other sites where the same thing happens all over. The admin said that he would delete the pic's from his site but could not guarantee that they wouldn't be reposted within minutes or days again because they had no way of verification.
So, I have kinda given up and even get a chuckle from time to time when I see some post of me from 15 years ago being claimed by some guy who says that he is posting pic's of some chick he just picked up in a bar and hit last week, etc

I guess the point here is girls, if you let a guy click a pic, any guy, expect to see it posted on some site or some forum someday.

Make ur man put down the cam or phone before you drop your top or get down to buisness unless you are willing to confront your past for ever on the web.

Nikki

Privacy
 

I'm pretty cautious when it comes to the Internet. I had a body pic up on here before bit I take it down when I hear people in my social circles talking about online sites. I work Ina very converservative office and I'm pretty sure I'd get some backlash of they realized imjust not that Kosher black guy that I appear to be. I also learned a lesson about sending women pics. If you do decide to do it make sure your face and cock aren't in the same shot lol

learning but too late
 

well i'm learning alot from you guys and gals. a little late for some things.

i have sent my pics to lovers too with my face on them. i knew better at the time but did it anyway.

i did choose not to put too revealing pics on here and other sites that i was previously on because of my professional life. wouldn't be kosher at all.

i would definitely respect her privacy. there are just too many unknowns and some of the scenarios that could play out in her life may be more than damaging.

it may not be her anyway. i've had more than a handful of people tell me i look like someone they know or this lady or that girl so although you may feel very strongly that you know it's her don't assume. i would want someone to respect my privacy as i will respect theirs.

Seeing a photo
 

When sharing photos with anyone my wife has interests in we always ask for discretion. Doing the same with contacts. However, theft of photos and videos of ours found on public porn sites is what really pisses us off. What we do, this lifestyle is personal and private to us and should be respected by members who participate on the sites we're a part of. One reason our profile here is set to friends only can see us. We've already had a few videos here stolen and found on the free porn sites. Its always a bother to have them removed but we do it. Makes us think twice before posting new photos or videos.

What to Say
 

I would not say anything to her about HER. However, if you trust her to keep secrets, then give her clues about YOU.

For example, you could say something to her like: just between the two of us, I am finding black men to be extremely sexy. It has to be so hot to have sex with them.

Then just wait to see what she has to say. You can say a little bit more, but don't push it until you get a positive response for her.

I would just leave it be. I know if someone came to me and told me that they had seen me on a certain site or a photo I would freak out, deny, etc etc etc, but anytime we post anything online there is always that chance , so we do post knowingly, and there might be a tiny tiny bit of excitement in someone knowing you, that's just me though

that is why I try hard to keep my "content" on THIS site only! I wouldn't say anything to her, but might roll up my sleeve to scratch while talking to her and accidently let her see my fake Queen of Spades tattoo...lol.

Someone you know
 

I'd agree with Mustang on this one, she has the right idea. And if it comes up in conversation thenit would be easier on the woman.