Seeing a photo of someone you recognise
 

Has this happened to other people on here?

I was nearly shocked when I saw the woman in this photo as she is somebody I know:


ILoveInterracial.Com - - Interracial Cowgirl On Top - photo from mule


I had absolutely no idea she was into this lifestyle, but I'm positive this is someone I know. The hairstyle and glasses give her away.

I won't embarass her my saying her name in public but she is a divorced mother of three very beautiful blonde daughters. Very well spoken and very middle class. She works as a nurse. She isn't as young as some of the users who have commented on the photo seem to think as she is in her forties. I would be fascinated to know if there are any other photos of her on the internet. If you knew her you'd know she really isn't the "type" to be posing for photos, never mind interracial sex photos for public consumption - but then it's always the quiet ones, I suppose! ;)


Has anyone else ever been in this position? Isn't it a strange feeling to see someone you know from everyday life in a state of undress? :confused: I honestly don't know whether to be embarassed or to be excited!

Do you raise the issue with the person when you next see them? Would that be proper? Hard to slip into a conversation, I should imagine! :D

Or are some things best left unsaid?

I'd be interested in hearing other people's experiences.


Well, at least I know I'm not the only lady in this part of the World with a thing for black guys. Was starting to wonder if this whole scene was something of a internet hoax.


Love all,

Tanya xxx

i would have to agree with you.

you should embrace this kindred spirit!

Gw3n

she should but you never know how some people will react? maybe hint about how hansome some black guy is and then ask if its true what they say about black men?? maybe that will break the ice??

Lets be realistic here- how many "non-pros" actually show an action shot that includes a face?

Secondly, a single image is in an album containing random images (of other people).

If she isn't pro, I would respect her privacy.

I would not be the les bit suprised if i saw the girls i when to school with on here. Has they was christians you know the type fuck every guy and girl they see but hate you cause your poor and don't do drugs.

Do not say anything to her, it is her life and her privacy should be respected. People post for various reasons that are personal to them, don't try to second guess them. I often see pictures of heavily pregnant women spreading their thighs and spreading their pussy lips. I often wonder what their son would think if he ran across his mothers fotos 15 years later, or his friends. Embarassing and a turn on at the same time. I can imagine the friends, and the son, jacking off like mad.

I would say that if you both know each other well and you're friends. Then go ahead and make share your desire for Black Men and Black Cock. You have both the same taste. So there is noting to be ashamed of. And if you don't live to far from each other. You both could share guys you meet, like and trust. But if she's only someone you know and not really a friend. Then what do you care??? It's her life. If she's a friend. It would be great to share stories of what you both enjoy and have enjoyed. How quiet are you???

If it's someone you know personally and are pretty close to, find a way to bring it up in a private place & time just between the 2 of you as it would be much less embarrassing. You can talk, compare interests & maybe even develop a deeper friendship.

If it's someone you've just seen around & don't personally know, don't approach them about it.

# 1 Respect her privacy
#2 Don't do anything that would risk problems for the girls, either

It obviously could be more serious than this but it reminds me of a conversation with a girl when I was in college about how she got a a lot of grief the day before at church because someone told just enough people that he saw her at a bar. My first question was, "Didn't anybody ask him how he saw you there if he wasn't?' " Apparently they were too busy enjoying the gossip to notice that they were passing up another victim. People . . . . .:rolleyes:

As much as you probably would like to share and maybe even share; what if YOU are precisely the type of person she wouldn't want to know? What if she enjoys the secrecy and fantasy of it and the picture was posted without her knowledge?

I have seen people I work with on another swinger;s site and am glad that I kept my name and picture off of it, (and somewhat glad they didn't because I would have contacted them otherwise), because it woul djust be ENTIRELY too awkward.

Might be just me, but I don't socialize much with co-workers. What if the people I like at work turned out to people I didn't like outside of work? A friend told me years ago that I keep my circles separate. I didn't realize it until that moment. Now it's a conscious choice. Unlike the girl who was crying on the phone at work theother night about having said/done something on Facebook that cost her friends; trouble at work doesn't affect me at home and vice versa.

Yes, telling her could be fantastic for both of you> And it could be a painful and abrupt end.

I won't give any names or screen names for respect for privacy, but I have seen pictures of a woman I used to meet for sex on this site and another one that caters to the interracial lifestyle. Granted its not really the same, I didn't know her in my "vanilla" life, but still I had no idea that she was into the interracial thing or that her pictures were out there. I just happened to stumble across them.

A few girls do not want their pic/video on the internet i can understand if the pics was taken without her knowledge/consent. But in todays worlds that is the path to fame and then they act like mad that it was released. You know they knew it was going on the web.

Anyway

I have seen a few girls on here that looks like girls i know same body, face is not straight facing the camera but the same marks (tattoos, birth marks), etc. But yes privacy is a big issue that needs to be respected.

Church goers the very definition of hypocrisies.

Familiar Faces
 

All of these years, and I have never seen a picture of anybody I know, or who I have been with. Of course, the most shocking thing of all would be to see an image of myself :( I haven't put "me" out there like that, and as I was telling one of my ILI friends last night, that's not something that I can afford to do professionally. So, I work very, very hard to "control the message" and avoid an Anthony Weiner-like "incident".

Lmao~~€
 

I've recently removed all the pics I uploaded onto here (except my avatar one which cuts my face off) precicely because I didn't want to be recognised. Don't get me wrong I'm divorced and proud of my 'lifestyle choice' but I'd rather the man I've just started seeing didn't know that I was on this site (just in case he is).

Ha! Well If I don't personaly know her? I'd make a move without mentioning the lifestyle, got to get in :). If I know her, Im sure there are ways to bringup the subject without introduting into her private life

He must be one of those men who doesn't pay attention to details because I'm pretty sure if I was a guy and dating you, I would be able to tell that you are who you are just from your hair, the shape of your body and chances are he has seen that dress//picture before. If not then you need to hide all copies of that pic lol

Hmm plus the corner of your face is showing. Yea you better hope he isn't a member here lol

Oops bit late there isn't it? With all the fakes and pic stealers out there who knows how many pics of you there is now?

I have a female friend in Ocala that I have partied with (all white gangbangs) and had no idea she was into black men until I saw a photo of her here on ILI getting it doggy style from a black guy. Since from day one she has known that I'm into black men I was suprised she had'nt told me that she was too. I decided to leave it alone and if she wants to tell me, she will. Besides it may have been her one and only interracial experience and she is just not into it....

Which is precicely why I have never posted any naked pictures on here (or anywhere else). And its a new bf I only started seeing a couple of weeks ago so I'm sure the conversation will eventually get around to this site (I will confess I'm sure).

Ive been caught afew times now
 

To make a long story short.
Ive been caught by some coworkers from other departments and I took them down ,'my pics
that is because I didnt want it to get around.
Ive posted pics then taken them off since then because it turns me on knowing that I could get caught.
Really I get scared to death sometimes and its hard to explain, then sometimes when Im feeling horny and want to hear u guys Ill post some.
Thats really why I post pics because I love hearing nice things about me and what u would do to me if u had the chance.
Ill end up dreaming about it too. and I love having dreams about and wake up wet!
:o

Kind of like those pictures with a skinny, little black bar over the eyes. Yeah, the eyes are a very important part of recognition; but not the only part.:D

Threee people, (that I know of), where I work have gotten fired for "inappropriate" Facebook pictures for fuck's sake!

They way the employee handbook is written and the extra little "agreement" that we all had to sign after that acknowledging that we would "be held repsonsible" for anything we "publish on the internet" with absolutely no indication of what would or wouldn't trigger our being "held responsible" makes it all nice and legal. Probably legal anyway. And who has thousands of dollars to find out if you just got fired?

This account, a couple of email accounts and my Facebook account are in different names. And I never log onto/into anything remotely interesting at work. I had one vanilla email account that I expose to the watchers and nothing else. Facebook notifications our friends who have birthdays? They have to wait. The watchers may know that I have a FB account but I'll be damned if I'm going to expose the password to them.

There is a definite chill among everyone who works there. Public postings are suspiciously innocuous. Anything of any interest is done strictly though private messages. And I'm not referring to things interracial, swinging lifestyle or anything "like that". I mean even comments like, "work really sucked today" have brought disciplinary action. You would think that in this economy companies would have better way to spend money.

I'm not even on Facebook any more. Tried it for a while a couple of years ago and grew out of it. Isn't it a bit passe now? Seeing their stock price drop through the floor I'd say it is.

My holy crap! Is that... Moment.
 

I'm a fan of Kaci Starr and was recently watching the video titled 'Monster Cock Fuckfest 4' which was made in 2007. One of the ladies in that movie is my cousin's ex girlfriend whom he broke up with just last year. She's now a real mess with drugs and her looks are way past the beauty in the film but definitely her. Voice and mannerisms all the same and everything. The funny thing is my cousin is a raving racist a-hole and would absolutely freak if I ever told him. So, for the sake of family harmony I keep quiet and enjoy my dirty secret.

/I have so many what's one more!

I've never been a fan. And it seems like every week there is something on TV about how Facebook has changed the defaults to expose everything you ever did on there to the world. The concept has SOME merit; but very damn little for me. A way to find people you've lost touch with is fine. Having people you didn't to find you find you is not so fine. From what I've seen it's the joiner and follower lemmings that populate Facebook that are the real problem. Posting too much crap, playing "games", pestering everybody on your "friends" lists with promotions of retailers, . . . what have I left out?

One really cool thing about Facebook happened a year or two to me. I was on YouTube, (damn near as bad, I know), and over in the list on the right was some guy wearing a black ski mask thing and black sunglasses. WTF? So I watched the video. It was a guy going by The AntiTerrorist. I LOVED what he said about Facebook. It was so damn funny that I watched all three parts. The finishing touch was that he had a bunch of subscribers dressed the same way.

And wedding rings?
 

I've always been amused at the pictures showing the womans left hand with the wedding ring "blocked" out! Yeah, I walk around the stores looking for a woman wearing that ring I saw in the video!!!!!

If someone recognized my wife, I would hope they would discreetly contact us.

I'd rather never know lol. It would be very awkward.

During years past I let my guard down with differant men and let them take candid photo's and a few vid's of myself and them thinking that they would remain in their private collections. I had this delusion for a long long time as one relationship would die and I went to another, and another.
Then one night I was on some site and stumbled upon a entire set of pic's of me with one of my long past lovers. It kinda shocked me to realize that this former lover had posted our personal photo's on line, fully exposing me in every way, yet they had taken the time to blur out their faces and tat's.
Since that time I occasionaly see a pic or two of me on differant sites, I have even seen my face posted on this site several times.
When I first began finding pic's of my past I tried to get them blocked or deleted but the truth is that once they have been posted, just once, they cannot ever be deleted. A site admin explained it like this, the moment it is posted it may be downloaded by 1,10, 100, 1000 differant people who instantly repost it on one or more other sites where the same thing happens all over. The admin said that he would delete the pic's from his site but could not guarantee that they wouldn't be reposted within minutes or days again because they had no way of verification.
So, I have kinda given up and even get a chuckle from time to time when I see some post of me from 15 years ago being claimed by some guy who says that he is posting pic's of some chick he just picked up in a bar and hit last week, etc

I guess the point here is girls, if you let a guy click a pic, any guy, expect to see it posted on some site or some forum someday.

Make ur man put down the cam or phone before you drop your top or get down to buisness unless you are willing to confront your past for ever on the web.

Nikki

Privacy
 

I'm pretty cautious when it comes to the Internet. I had a body pic up on here before bit I take it down when I hear people in my social circles talking about online sites. I work Ina very converservative office and I'm pretty sure I'd get some backlash of they realized imjust not that Kosher black guy that I appear to be. I also learned a lesson about sending women pics. If you do decide to do it make sure your face and cock aren't in the same shot lol

learning but too late
 

well i'm learning alot from you guys and gals. a little late for some things.

i have sent my pics to lovers too with my face on them. i knew better at the time but did it anyway.

i did choose not to put too revealing pics on here and other sites that i was previously on because of my professional life. wouldn't be kosher at all.

i would definitely respect her privacy. there are just too many unknowns and some of the scenarios that could play out in her life may be more than damaging.

it may not be her anyway. i've had more than a handful of people tell me i look like someone they know or this lady or that girl so although you may feel very strongly that you know it's her don't assume. i would want someone to respect my privacy as i will respect theirs.

Seeing a photo
 

When sharing photos with anyone my wife has interests in we always ask for discretion. Doing the same with contacts. However, theft of photos and videos of ours found on public porn sites is what really pisses us off. What we do, this lifestyle is personal and private to us and should be respected by members who participate on the sites we're a part of. One reason our profile here is set to friends only can see us. We've already had a few videos here stolen and found on the free porn sites. Its always a bother to have them removed but we do it. Makes us think twice before posting new photos or videos.

What to Say
 

I would not say anything to her about HER. However, if you trust her to keep secrets, then give her clues about YOU.

For example, you could say something to her like: just between the two of us, I am finding black men to be extremely sexy. It has to be so hot to have sex with them.

Then just wait to see what she has to say. You can say a little bit more, but don't push it until you get a positive response for her.

I would just leave it be. I know if someone came to me and told me that they had seen me on a certain site or a photo I would freak out, deny, etc etc etc, but anytime we post anything online there is always that chance , so we do post knowingly, and there might be a tiny tiny bit of excitement in someone knowing you, that's just me though

that is why I try hard to keep my "content" on THIS site only! I wouldn't say anything to her, but might roll up my sleeve to scratch while talking to her and accidently let her see my fake Queen of Spades tattoo...lol.

Someone you know
 

I'd agree with Mustang on this one, she has the right idea. And if it comes up in conversation thenit would be easier on the woman.