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Offers and demands? When you see yourself as the prize you don't see it that way so it's all subjective, I know some guys will bend and jump thru hoops to get some sex from couples acting as gatekeepers (act this way, dress this way, be this body type, must be well hung, etc. Ppl have their preferences of course but will throw others under the bus while expecting certain things) but that's on those black single males. It'll end up being a stalemate in most convos if the vibe and respect level is off on both sides so I usually decline. It overwhelmingly doesn't work out: they want you to act a certain way, they wanna see your dick, they don't want YOU to be pushy but It's okay for them to be and other issues. From certain ppls perspective usually the single guy = bad guy in those encounters. Add black to it and well....
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I do see some others guys get it after reading past replies so I see I am not alone and it isn't a perception issue.
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Hey if the husband is too pushy or requesting tons of pictures from you that's a red flag just like if you came off pushy and perverted to a couple which is a red flag to them. Its rare to find a couple so laid back even in the swinger lifestyle where you will only talk to the female side of the couple. I would say out of the couples I have met only 20-30% of them I am chatting with the female side only. Of course this is with their husbands consent.
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this IMO is huge. act disrepectful or don't show any respect for the woman or her husband and it's over, you lose. |
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I agree as well. My husband is involved because my mating involves satisfaction for all 3 of us. My husband acts as a screener because he knows what I like and he's concerned about my safety. He doesn't need to see cock photos, but does need to know about size because, again, he knows what I like.
After the first meeting or two, I'll be the only one to make contact. Sometimes it's me that wants to breed, sometimes my husband wants to see me and my BBC together. And sometimes my Lover will contact me. Sometimes hubby wi'll be there to watch, sometimes he'll leave us alone. Because, again, it's all about what the THREE of us want! |
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My wife and I use a couple methods. She meets guys through work or where ever and will play with them completely solo. She usually tells me who they are, but not always. When we are looking on the internet, she'll have me narrow it down to five or six 'candidates' to show her(she HATES computers), and she'll pick out who she likes. I make the first contact, and IF they respond, she immediately takes over the conversation and exchanges numbers. 90% of the time she plays alone. My only 'rule' is if she meets him more than once, than I'm assuming it was good, and I want a few pics(just once). He doesn't have to put his face in it. I wouldn't ask her to take pics the first time because how awkward is that on a first time hook-up?
When we first started playing I would handle most of it. But I think that's because unlike a lot of couples, my wife is the one that suggested opening up our relationship, so I was a little paranoid and cautious at first. 10 years on, and I trust her completely with it. Not to say those that do it differently don't trust each other, but that's how we roll these days. edit-I guess we have two rules. The first time she goes to his house or a hotel, she will text me his name and the address(and will let the guy know she sent it to me). We both agreed on that after she caught a guy trying to lace her drink a few years ago. Last edited by girthbrooks337; 01-01-2014 at 12:45 AM.. |
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