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[lena4black]

Cheating is goiong to cause trouble in your marriage, that is a fact.
But the decision to cheat can sometimes save a marriage.
We all change as life goes on, we cannot be the same person we were 20 years ago, and neither can our partners. A roaring fire will eventually become a warm glowing ember of what it once was.
I do not suggest cheating at the drop of a hat, and seriously, if you are able, then you should try and work out an 'arrangement' within your marriage so you can both agree a path forward that includes you getting some Black Cock here & there.
This is not always possible, jealousy, hurt, financial & family considerations, they all play a part in the decision to cheat or not.
I love my white husband, but I no longer find him remotely sexually attractive, he & I have both changed over the years we have been married. Our relationship is such that I would describe it as platonic best friends more than intimate lovers.
I still have sexual desires, needs & wants, but they just don't involve my husband mentally of physically. I thought about divorce, but I don't want that, I know he loves me, he takes care of me financially, we have an integrated social life with our friends & families, a nice home and a good supportive friendship. But I do not want to consider that at my age my sex life is over and that I will never have the pleasure or feeling of being taken by a Black Cock.
I will admit that intially I had fed the desire for Black Cock with my own internet research, watching IR porn, a lot, joining IR community sites like Get Her Blacked & this one.
The deeper I got involved mentally, the less chance I had of ever walking away never having 'tried it'... I was 44 at the time, for a woman that is only half way through her life expectancy...I couldn't not ever have sex again, and nor should I be expected to lay back and think of England whilst my husband humped away at me...I would end up resenting him and possibly hating him for not being what I wanted, which was Black & Bigger!

I was really nervous when I first 'went Black' I carried huge guilt in my heart, but it had taken two years to get to the point where I could not go on in life without having 'tried it' at least once... But if we know anything about Black Cock, we know that you cannot just try it once and walk away. Once I had done it, I wanted to do it again, and teh more Black Cock I had in me the more I wanted.

I almost grieved about my cheating ways, but then I realised that, my marriage was only one part of my life, that I own my body and I have the right to a sex life. The question was should I break up my marriage to exercise that right. My marriage has now survived and flourished over the 5 years since I 'went Black'.

After a few months I realised that it was wrong of me to allow my husband to share my bed or see me in a state of undress anymore. I felt I was giving him false hope by having him next to me in our marital bed and seeing me naked. It felt wrong, so I set about engineering
a new way of life for us. I told him I was menopausal & had lost any interest in sex and that he should accept that our marriage was based on deeper things than sex, which had not played a part in it for a coupld of years anyway. I also explained that his snoring was affecting me as I seldom got a good nights sleep and was always tired at work.

I suggested that during the week he slept in the spare room if I had occasion to dig him in the back for snoring... he agreed and I began to wake him on account of his snoring almost every night. (and this part was the truth, he snores like a bear!) After a month or so he began to naturally go straight to the spare room. Gradually I began to 'move' his stuff in there, first his toileteries' the his work suits etc, until he really had no reason to come into our marital
bedroom for anything. Once he did, and I was naked as he walked in, I instinctively grabbed a towel and covered myself up, this shocked him, but he averted his eyes and apologized
as he left the room. I later apologized to him for reacting that way, but explained that I had gotten used to my own privacy now and I was just startled by him walking in on me without knocking first.
Since this, he almost never come in our marital bedroom & when he does he politely knocks and waits for me to open the door to him, which I always do once I am covered & I aways make sure I greet him with a smile and a freindly 'hi honey, how can I help you?'
Since going Black Only I am much more relaxed & happy in our marriage, he feels the benefit, often commenting on how me looking more happy makes him feel more happy and we never argue anymore. I am happy to link him when we are out, I kiss him on teh cheek when he sets out for work or comes home in the evening. I will also kiss his cheek to say goodnight each night when I go to bed alone.
I would say that once I had dealt with the angst of my decision to cheat I knew that it was the right decision FOR ME & OUR MARRIAGE... My later decision to Go Black Only' was inevitable and less lard to make.
I have friends now I never had before, some of these are made up friends, like susie a girl from work who left to live in another City and whom I spend the odd weekend with.
Its a little lie, but one that allows me to spend a whole weekend with a Black Man if I want to.
He never asks about her other than to ask if we enjoyed our girlie weekend. My imaginary friend Susie has young kids and so can never travel over to us fro a weekend.
Yes there are cover stories and deciept involved but so long as he is blissfuly ingnorant of what I am doing then our marriage is probably more rock solid than it ever was.

Perhaps one day I will confess all to him and put my marriage at risk in the hope he agrees to continue to be a cuckolded white husband...but for now, I cuckold him in secret.
I doubt he could accept it if I told him, so what he doesn't know actually protects him from himself, as his male ego would probably mean he would blow it all.
One day, I will be too old to continue to be sexual, and as happens, women do become less sexually attractive to men generally, we all know that.
When that day comes, our marriage will be stronger than most peoples as we have already discovered a lasting loving way to be with each other that will keep us together til our dying days.

In the meantime, I can enjoy being a Black Cock Slut and experiencing new sexual highs with ever new Black Cock adventure I have.

So for those who say marriage is sacred, think of your vows, cheating will ruin your chances of going to heaven, think of the damage it will do if he finds out...etc etc.

Well cheating definately saved my marriage, and as far as my vows are concerned, I am being true unto my husband by doing what it takes for me to stay married to him, and ladies, as for goig to heaven, girls I am taken to heaven every time I take a Black Cock inside me!!

As for him finding out, he won't, but if he does, I will tell him everything and point out that our marriage has been closer and happier than ever because of my chosen lifestyle, then I will let him choose whathe wants to do, and take the consequences of my actions either way.

But I can see us still holding hands when we are 92 !

[melissa6]

It's only ok if the following boxes are checked off:
Will it be just for sex, not emotions? Then do it.
Do you love you husband and only want some cock? Then do it.
Are you sure he wouldn't be ok with watching? Then do it.
Are you sure that you r not gonna get attached to the black guy emotionally? Then do it.

But only do it if all those answers are YES.
Melissa
PS: I love fucking black guys, but I also love my white husband. And I love it when he watches.

[darkliquor]

Just came across this thread and find the comments most interesting. Everyone has very valid points which expose the complexities surrounding infidelity. The simple fact underlying this issue is that not most of us cannot escape the desires (mental, physical, emotional) to be with other people whether, we're married or not. We are all attracted to others in various ways and often that attraction leads to thoughts that lead to desires that then lead to action.

The risks that so many of you have eluded to typically are a huge part of why people cheat, so I believe the risks become overwhelmed by those desires. When you find yourself craving something so much that it overtakes you in every way, you will find ways to have it...or temptation will provide a way for you to have it. It's the law of attraction and it works perfectly.

As emotional beings we can always find justification for what we want...even in the face of great damage, to ourselves and those around us.

Is it worth the risks? Only those who ponder the decision this decision can answer this question.

[deanron62]

I have realized that if I don't get involved, she will get her "fix" without me! To her, good looking black men are like candy, and to watch her suck and play with a hard black dick.
you would think that it tasted like candy! The noises that she makes when she was him to cum makes me hard too!

I have trouble with erections, and that is why we started experimenting, and I had no idea
that her desires were so strong. She really works hard at keeping her figure and appearances
in top shape to attract the men that she likes now. She has always been a little heavy in the but, but it is well round shaped, and now she knows that black men like that, so it makes her feel more attractive.

We have been to a few bars in town, and she has told me about a few men that she might
like to be with, but I think that it is a bad idea to do this in our own town.

[Blkm4whtfem]

I guess the question is would you want to be cheated on and to remember what you do in the dark always comes to light.

[tapatia 69]

in my deep personal opinion
happen to me
I toll hubby that he didn't fuck or touch me enough
for months
I toll him that I will look for someone to finish the job
I ADVISED HIM
many times
then I'll start fucking around
he saw one video on my cell
fucking a BIG 12" cock
he was so furious
he left home for a week
and he came back asking for forgiveness
he took ALL the he guilt
now we still together ( married)
he fuck me more
but I still enjoying BBC
off course I'm super extra care full not to be caught on the acct
and we are happy Luke that
he don't ask I don't tell
xoxoxoxo
riparian !!!!!!

[Helmetnuts]

Its never ok to cheat...if your marriage has ever reached that point then get a divorce. We always play together. Monogomy sucks, sex is sex and love is love but if you're willing to cheat then you really don't love your spouse.

[sinbala]

Cheating is really just cheating yourself of the full experience; sad. Find the right spouse / partner and do it right!

[florida hubby]

For many years my husband was very much into this lifestyle, taking pics and vids and even setting up meetings for me including gangbangs. A little over a year ago he decided that he was no longer interested and expected me to abstain from it also. NOT! I now have to cheat but that's ok because the local black male population keeps me well supplied with black cock....Becky

[Geraldene]

Originally Posted by florida hubby

For many years my husband was very much into this lifestyle, taking pics and vids and even setting up meetings for me including gangbangs. A little over a year ago he decided that he was no longer interested and expected me to abstain from it also. NOT! I now have to cheat but that's ok because the local black male population keeps me well supplied with black cock....Becky

You took the correct decision Becky. NEVER refuse a black cock if it makes you happy.