wow- the way you put that...

To be honest- the though of having a black BF on the side, who is happy with that arrangement makes me kind of wet. To have leverage with my husband, so that if he finds out, he knows I have another man, and it's like... let me have this on the side and we can stay married, or if you don't, I'm leaving...

I don't want to get re-married if I leave him. I would be able to see anyone I wanted after that.

mmmm

Threatening to leave him for my black lover unless he allows me to continue to have my fun on the side... with my black fuckbuddy...

fuck that sounds so empowering!

Threatening to leave him for my black lover unless he allows me to continue to have my fun on the side... with my black fuckbuddy...

fuck that sounds so empowering![/QUOTE]


big step though- so you think I should have my Black side thing first before making any demands of my Husband?

Married, But Want To Have Sex W/ A Black Man
 

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He mouth waters for want of my big black dick. She cleans herself and wears a buttplug cause she wants my big black dick back there where hubby has never been before. She desires to be wrapped in my arms as I deep dick grind that white pussy long, deep and continuously. Be careful what you wish for, cause if your black fuck buddy is anything like me, he brings more to the table then a big black dick. He brings skills and techniques that go with that big black cock that you've never experienced before with hubby. Its not a myth..".ONCE BLACK...YOU'LL NEVER WANT TO GO BACK". Peace. :cool:/B]

Good idea!

You need to decide it loosing what you have is worth it. Only you can make this decision, nobody else. As an older person, I can tell you that sex isn't the only thing in a relationship. Now at your age it IS a HELL of alot more important than it will be later in life. How are you with dealing with guilt? Seriously, can you compartmentalize and deal with it? If not, then you need to have a sit down with him and talk about including others into the relationship. Are you ok with him having another woman on the side?
You guys need to talk about all this. My impression of things is that he really isn't into this, so be prepared to break up. I"m not saying don't have the talk, there is nothing worse than being in a relationship that isn't fulfilling for both of you, in the end both of you will be happier with someone else. But the best way forward is honesty, because maybe you can deal with the guilt, and maybe he will never find out. Neither of those is a given, and the consequences of both are worse than just getting things out into the open.
As someone else posted above, test the waters first with some IR porn first. See how he reacts, that'll tell you some things. Think about all of this, and his reaction to the IR Porn, and then talk. Go forward from there. Unsolicited Old Man Advice.
Good luck and keep us posted!

big step though- so you think I should have my Black side thing first before making any demands of my Husband?[/QUOTE]

Yes, do it discretely and once you see how great it is your decision will become easy

Well it’s your life. If getting nigger dicked is worth more than your marriage then don’t tell, tell him or who fucking cares right? Go for it. If you think that you fucking another man in your marital bed, a hotel, behind a dumpster or whatever might be a problem for him and you value your life with him well then it might be time for an actual conversation. If he says fuck no - then what you do next is again based on what you value more. Just think first.

Bitch pulled disrespectful shit like that on me, she’d have a major problem. But that’s me.

I am married to a much older man. He is a sweetheart and my security blanket, but he has not been interested in sex in years. I am a working, traveling insurance rep, and at age 44, I encountered a very handsome and charming black man in the hotel bar. With more wine than I should have accepted, I found myself undressing in his room while he watched. My juices were running down my thigh as I undressed before this man, and in staying with him all night, I have become totally addicted!

In the early morning, he introduced me to my very first anal, and while on top of me with his very impressive dick still in my freshly fucked ass, we whispered several things to me. I remember hearing his words like it was yesterday... "Peggy, when a black man fucks a white woman in her ass, her ass belongs to black men forever."

"White men have white cocks. Black men have big black dicks that were made and designed to please and excite white women and their pussies."

He was right! He certainly pleased mine! Although I am cautious and selective, nothing, absolutely nothing excites me more than a black man who considers a married white woman and her pussy as a trophy, and who will do literally anything to get it.

He told me that he never seeks single white women or "younger white girls" and that only married, seemingly prim and proper white women who are exceptionally attractive, and who seemingly would NEVER picture themselves being with a black man are his thing. He certainly changed my views and desires after just one night in bed with him!

Wow that’s hot… so your husband doesn’t know or you end up telling him?

Just do it. It will open up a new world and you will never regret it.