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1st time post: Need responses from wives, girlfriends (guys too) |
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First, I want to say that the the IR fantasy is mine, and my wife does this for the initial reasons why you wanted to do this for your husband. However, my wife has nowhere near the libido that I have or that you have. So it is difficult to get her interested in sex period. That said she has been with 5 different black guys. 4 of the five black guys were about my size both diameter and length - 4 inch girth and 7 inches long. There was only one guy who was a 5x8. Size does not matter to my wife as much as the connection she has with the guy. No connection for her nothing will happen. Her issue is in not the great sex she has with the black guys, she has had good orgasms with all of them, but rather the emotional stuff. She develops feelings for them which in turn they developed feelings for her and then it gets kinda dicey.
My wife and I always play together and she likes me watching her have sex and getting turned on but she insists that she loves my dick the best. So you may find that you really, really, really like fucking black guys a lot and I bet your husband will love that about you. You may be surprised that the sex between you and your hubby improves as a result of the experience. I hope that helps. |
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Thanks for that answer. You may be exactly right. I expect the 1st time will initially be outrageously exciting because of the fantasy I have built up in my head. But I'm old enough to know that reality rarely matches expectations. thanks.
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my wife and i swap/group with a black couple that were long time friends first,..she too was reluctant at first ,it took a few times and a more dominant position by her bull before she began to really enjoy herself,..we've remained with our "playmates" for over two years now and our relations keep growing more incredible.
give it a try,..you may discover a entirely new aspect to your sex life.,.if not at least you can never say I WISHED i had given it a try |
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Hi, excellent post by the way. I am a black male in my early 40s and I am having a "relationship" with a 40 yo married white woman that has been going on for about a year and a half now. We met on another site and her husband was sort of the orchestrator of the whole thing, although I have never met him and don't plan to. I believe that is her preference that he not be involved but he seems to be content with the photos, video and stories that she provides from our encounters.
Anyways, to be honest, I believe that their sex life is MUCH better off now than before in my opinion. First off, she is getting the best of both worlds...a very loving relationship with her husband and a hot, passionate, yet also loving relationship with a black man...yes, we have strong feelings for each other and the husband knows this yet it seems to excite him even more and enhances their personal fantasies. For example, they once had me listen to them having sex on the phone-something that he had been hounding her to ask me to do for months. He really seemed to enjoy himself that night and it was kind of arousing for me as well. The next time we met I really put it on her...if you know what I mean. I know that the sex is different between the two of us, for example she seems to save her pussy and ass for me when she knows we're going to meet by giving the hubby blowjobs instead. This is her preference. SHe loves giving head and can get him off quicker that way. They really don't have intercourse very often. I'm not sure if he prefers it this way or not, but I do know that he gets blown multiple times a day so maybe it's a good trade-off. lol He really does seem to be more into sending her off then hearing the stories afterwards rather than pleasing her himself. I know I'm rambling but I think that if you enjoy sex with your hubby and you both are engaged in this fantasy equally then it should be pleasurable for both of you. I hope this helps a little let me know if you have any other questions for me and good luck to you! |
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Really important questions there. I can only reply about our experience, but maybe that will help you think about how you want to proceed.
My wife and I have always had an excellent sex life, enjoying each other immensely. I am nicely endowed (7.5 x 5) and she has a tight pussy. We have long enjoyed an active fantasy life. Sexually we are exceptionally compatible. Our IR adventures began about 3 years ago, when she - we have few secrets from each other - admitted that she had been fucked by 3 black men in college. The was a deep "dark" secret that she felt very ashamed about, due to the taboo, her conservative family, etc. I could tell she found interracial sex very exciting yet a tad scary - and very taboo - too. Based on that, and telling her it was fine with me, actually quite arousing, I worked up to a 3some with a black man, then another, then another. Each experience was better than the last. She's had 5 black lovers now, all have been good, a couple have been amazing. She has insane orgasms with black cocks and loves to get fucked hard. Two of her black lovers have been a tad smaller than me, two have been my length but a lot thicker, and one was huge, a true 10 x 7 pornstar cock. He fucked the hell out of her for hours, never seen any woman cum like that. I had no idea she could take so much cock, she's a tight fit for me, but her got her so excited that he was balls-deep in no time. But it brought us closer together - no matter how many rounds she goes interracially, I always fuck her after the stud finishes - and her pussy is as tight as ever. It's made our sex life better in every way. But it's about honest communication about our desires and featrs. My being well endowed is good too, I'm not jealous even when she gets stretched out a bit. |
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This seems to be what I am afraid of. It sounds to me like he either does not feel "worthy" to have intercourse with her anymore because he knows that he can't satisfy her like you can and that his blowjobs that he gets are sort of "pity sex". If that works for them, that's fine with me. But I'm afraid our relationship might get the same way. Like in a way I might be thinking "Okay, let's get this over with" while I would be waiting for the really good sex with my black lover. |
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