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[EasyRider1040]

There are at least two major problems in terms of discussing differences between white women and black women. The first is that you can't use a descriptive word or phrase that could also not be applied to any woman or women in the groups being compared. The second is that we're talking about personal subjective preferences, not objective standards. If you're a black man and you prefer to be intimate with non-black women that does not mean there is anything objectively wrong with black women no matter how many bad relationships you have had with black women. We can't really claim there is something essential about white women not possessed by other women. We can, however, talk about what we find sexually exciting and erotic. If, for example, a marked contrast in skin color between you and your sexual partner is what floats your boat then it is what it is. That's my two cents. Peace.

[ThickNiggaDick]

Originally Posted by EasyRider1040

We can't really claim there is something essential about white women not possessed by other women.

That's right, and if we as black men do make that claim, then we are guilty of doing with the white woman the exact same thing that many accuse black women of doing with the white man . . . putting them on a pedestal as "the standard" to be attained by all other women.

[hrku]

I've dated a lot of different races and they have all been strong women. I've seen submissive black and white women and it's annoying to be with someone who seems to just say yes or blindly follow you with out giving any input or ideas. It doesn't matter about the color of your skin or their bank account. Being submissive is an innate trait to a person. In relationship I LOVE being with a strong woman rather than someone who would just let me do whatever and just "go along for the ride".

[Mustang Alley]

Originally Posted by hrku

I've dated a lot of different races and they have all been strong women. I've seen submissive black and white women and it's annoying to be with someone who seems to just say yes or blindly follow you with out giving any input or ideas. It doesn't matter about the color of your skin or their bank account. Being submissive is an innate trait to a person. In relationship I LOVE being with a strong woman rather than someone who would just let me do whatever and just "go along for the ride".

Now that's my kind of man!!! 💋

[BlkmanSweden]

Originally Posted by hrku

I've dated a lot of different races and they have all been strong women. I've seen submissive black and white women and it's annoying to be with someone who seems to just say yes or blindly follow you with out giving any input or ideas. It doesn't matter about the color of your skin or their bank account. Being submissive is an innate trait to a person. In relationship I LOVE being with a strong woman rather than someone who would just let me do whatever and just "go along for the ride".

yes i have upmost respect for those kind of women

[ThickNiggaDick]

Originally Posted by hrku

I've dated a lot of different races and they have all been strong women. I've seen submissive black and white women and it's annoying to be with someone who seems to just say yes or blindly follow you with out giving any input or ideas. It doesn't matter about the color of your skin or their bank account. Being submissive is an innate trait to a person. In relationship I LOVE being with a strong woman rather than someone who would just let me do whatever and just "go along for the ride".

I guess it all depends on how she manifests the "strong". I mean, I like a woman who understands that she can be both strong and a lady at the same time. She understands that being strong isn't about a battle of wills all the time. She's not the type who thinks it's a challenge to try to out fuck the man LOL! She stands proudly with her head held high as she waits for her man to open the door for her.

I dated this red headed white chick once, and she was telling me about how she had a flat tire one time. It was before we met. Anyway, this guy stopped to help her change the tire, and she told him she didn't need any help. Then she said she got offended when he kind of stood there for a minute to watch her and see how she was gonna do. I mean really? Come on. She was offended by that ? I wish somebody had stopped to help me the last time I had to change a tire. Got all dirty in my nice business suit and hurt my back and shit

Anyway, I ended up dumping her ass after seeing her for a little while. You see, in her never ending desire to show her strength and independence as a woman . . . she forgot to remember that to attract most men (especially "strong" men) . . . you need to be . . . a lady. She would be over at my place, and then when she would get ready to leave, I would ask her to call me when she got home so I would know that she arrived safe and sound. And her reply? "I'm a big girl. I think I can get home safe all right," (while rolling eyes).

No shit!? Of course she was a "big girl", but she was totally missing the point! When a guy asks something of that from a girl, he's telling her that he CARES something about her . . . that he LIKES her . . . and wants HER to KNOW that he wants her to be free of any harm. But in her quest to be "strong and independent", she was blind to understanding and picking up on this kind of "man talk". Maybe that's why the guy before me dumped her too . . . and announced he was gonna get engaged to be married to somebody else! Said she was devastated. Obviously didn't learn shit.

A lot of women think they understand men. But, they don't understand jack shit about men. Not at all. I got tired of her "feminism". That's the way she described herself by the way when we had falling out and I stopped calling her. She "admitted" to being a "feminist". Well, I suppose strength and feminism come in tandem. But, you don't have to be a feminist in order to possess personal strength as a woman. I don't mind a strong woman. Just as long as she remembers to . . . be a lady too . . . which means knowing how to interact with, attract, and KEEP the opposite sex in her life.

[perkypumpkinssss]

Originally Posted by ThickNiggaDick

I guess it all depends on how she manifests the "strong". I mean, I like a woman who understands that she can be both strong and a lady at the same time. She understands that being strong isn't about a battle of wills all the time. She's not the type who thinks it's a challenge to try to out fuck the man LOL! She stands proudly with her head held high as she waits for her man to open the door for her.

I dated this red headed white chick once, and she was telling me about how she had a flat tire one time. It was before we met. Anyway, this guy stopped to help her change the tire, and she told him she didn't need any help. Then she said she got offended when he kind of stood there for a minute to watch her and see how she was gonna do. I mean really? Come on. She was offended by that ? I wish somebody had stopped to help me the last time I had to change a tire. Got all dirty in my nice business suit and hurt my back and shit

Anyway, I ended up dumping her ass after seeing her for a little while. You see, in her never ending desire to show her strength and independence as a woman . . . she forgot to remember that to attract most men (especially "strong" men) . . . you need to be . . . a lady. She would be over at my place, and then when she would get ready to leave, I would ask her to call me when she got home so I would know that she arrived safe and sound. And her reply? "I'm a big girl. I think I can get home safe all right," (while rolling eyes).

No shit!? Of course she was a "big girl", but she was totally missing the point! When a guy asks something of that from a girl, he's telling her that he CARES something about her . . . that he LIKES her . . . and wants HER to KNOW that he wants her to be free of any harm. But in her quest to be "strong and independent", she was blind to understanding and picking up on this kind of "man talk". Maybe that's why the guy before me dumped her too . . . and announced he was gonna get engaged to be married to somebody else! Said she was devastated. Obviously didn't learn shit.

A lot of women think they understand men. But, they don't understand jack shit about men. Not at all. I got tired of her "feminism". That's the way she described herself by the way when we had falling out and I stopped calling her. She "admitted" to being a "feminist". Well, I suppose strength and feminism come in tandem. But, you don't have to be a feminist in order to possess personal strength as a woman. I don't mind a strong woman. Just as long as she remembers to . . . be a lady too . . . which means knowing how to interact with, attract, and KEEP the opposite sex in her life.

I try to focus on the person... doesn't matter to me what gender they are,, where they are from and all that. It's the person that matters to me and what they are all about and how we connect. And you are sooo right... a person will be treated in the manner that they act so if you want to be with someone then I make sure to act in a way that makes them want me too. anyway.. just sayin.

[newblkman22]

Originally Posted by hrku

I've dated a lot of different races and they have all been strong women. I've seen submissive black and white women and it's annoying to be with someone who seems to just say yes or blindly follow you with out giving any input or ideas. It doesn't matter about the color of your skin or their bank account. Being submissive is an innate trait to a person. In relationship I LOVE being with a strong woman rather than someone who would just let me do whatever and just "go along for the ride".

Totally agree with you there pal, I love a strong and independent woman who will speak her mind, knows what she wants, etc. Give me advice give me input and tell me what I need to hear instead of what I wanna hear.

[dbiggs]

As a Black man that has dated a few White women over the years I have found them to just be easier to get along with. White women were with me through thick and thin, Black women just through the thick. I never had a WW that I considered a pushover.And they are more open minded sexually. Black women always say they are independent,but once they have sex with you then they start beggin,bitchin, and complaining. The only thing they bring to the table is a big mouth and a bunch of kids. I'm not looking to marry again,but if I do it sure as hell won't be to a Black woman. I want to live the rest of my days in relative peace!
BTW... Luv ya Mustang!!!

[ThickNiggaDick]

Originally Posted by dbiggs

The only thing they bring to the table is a big mouth and a bunch of kids.

That reminds me of when I used to date women who have kids (I absolutely don't anymore). Anyway, I was seeing this one with kids (white), and she was like, "We're a package deal!" And I was like (in my head), well I see the package, but where the hell is the "deal"??? LOL! She was pretty (looked like Big Booty Barbie), but just like the black women you describe, she wasn't bringing anything else to the table but a big mouth and kids. White women can be like that too.