HELL NO!!! You guys keep getting busted and I am just a breathe away from it.

I will though, just not yet. She needs to be in a serious deep sleep.

You have to admit, hypnosis opens up many possibilities.

It certainlly seems so. Maybe the mind is more open to that kind of talk.

There are a whole lot of things to think about with hypnosis.
Where ever you take that person, you must bring them back.

Be careful what you say does not get taken literally. - Don't use cliches. _ "When you see your Black friends crotch it will make you so hot" - And then she'll have uncomfortable hot flashes when she see looks at his crotch:eek:

Simple language etc.

I've got some guidelines somewhere. I'll dig them up.

Guys,

Went thru my whispering last night. Tried out a little hypnosis technique and she began to awake but then fell back to sleep. Whats strange is when I begin going thru my suggestions, she begins breathing like a freight train, literally. Heavy breathing, panting etc. Shes as quiet as can be before I begin but a freight train during?

What gives?

Okay, and you used a triggerword. Did you find out what happens if you use that word in a general conversation?

I am gonna restart LW this night.

No, I am working up to trigger words. I want to continue with the whispering and hypnosis. However, I cannot see shit at night, so if shes moving a finger to acknowledge my suggestions, I don't see it. The hypnosis technique suggests repetition and that the subject becomes more receptive to the ideas, your suggestions.

I am trying to get her to speak or blurt something during my hypnosis, since I cannot see shit. Once I get that, I will begin trigger words and a world of possibilities opens up.

I'm wondering too.
I get the same reaction. I told her while she was panting that BBC was ok and it would be good for our marriage. She stopped the heavy breathing and rolled over with her back to me. Am I reading too much into this?
Could it be a negative reaction because she hasn't been "eased" into the situation. Or is she just HOT?

@Jacko1

Did you sit near her or did you lay near her? And how long after she started sleeping did you start?

I wake up at all hours of the night. Typically, its in the middle of the night that I get the best reaction, 2-4 am. She is well into her sleep and has a steady breathing pattern. I have done it at 5 am as well but the breathing during whisper time is not as deep.

I am usually laying next to her and will begin with breathing to match her breathing. I do that for about 3-5 minutes followed by calling her by name and saying nice things for another minute. I then break into " you hear me but will stay asleep" "You want to speak but will remain asleep" consistent with the hypnosis techniques. I am literally asking her to speak or move a finger or foot etc. I cannot see a damn thing, as its dark and I am blind. This seems to be working. The other night she was trying to force words before she went into a full blown breathing freight train. I will continue this pattern and its my hope that the pattern will lead to a far deeper hypnotic trance. I am patient and have nothing but time to let this work. The fact that her breathing pattern changes and she attempted to force words, tells me something is at work at a subconscious level.

Let me know how you guys work your magic.

Last night I got push back - literally. She put her hand on my chest and pushed slightly and said "Stop that". It's a phrase that see uses during forplay. The tone was the same, but I've never had the push before.
The more I do this the more that I think the hyptnosis route is the way to go.

I just have to put together the right script. I want to do it right the first time.

LW is working. She hornier etc. But I'm not getting any open expression of her wants.
I did some digging nad the reactions we get - rolling over, "waking" , maybe the heavy breathing could be an abreaction:

abreaction [ˌæbrɪˈækʃən]
n
(Psychoanalysis) the release and expression of emotional tension associated with repressed ideas by bringing those ideas into consciousness.

It's that emotional tension that has to be addressed.
Again, maybe setting her mind at ease about the fact that it would strenghen the relationship etc.

The Hyno thing must be right though. I don't want to plant some kind of Phycosis that I'll have to live with.
Kinda like swearing at a parrott:)

Pasted from various sources:


[B]Stages of Hypnotherapy[/B

]Preparation
In the first session, the client and the hypnotherapist determine an achievable goal and establish a rapport. The first session has a thorough preparation and each session thereafter includes an evaluation of the problem and the desired outcome.
During the preparation, the hypnotherapist assesses the client's receptivity, suggestibility, and the possibility of achieving the desired outcome. The hypnotherapist must screen the client for factors that might make the client ineligible for hypnotherapy. Here are some questions the hypnotherapist may ask the client:
· Why did you seek a hypnotherapist at this time?
· What do you hope to accomplish?
· Is your condition medical or psychological? Has a physician or psychotherapist been consulted?
· What other treatments have you had for the condition?
At this time, the hypnotherapist assesses the client's capacity to receive and act on posthypnotic suggestions. The hypnotherapist must understand what words, imagery, and symbols affect the client. It is important for the client to understand his or her own suggestibility, so that he or she can participate effectively with the hypnotherapist.
During the preparation, the hypnotherapist corrects any misconceptions or unrealistic expectations the client may have about hypnosis and clearly communicates what hypnosis can and cannot do. Once the hypnotherapist is satisfied that the client is ready for hypnosis, he or she reviews the stages of hypnosis and begins the induction.

Induction
During induction, the hypnotherapist guides the client to narrowly focus his or her attention to the point that sensory impressions are blocked out. The client can then reach the state of complete relaxation necessary for hypnosis to occur. The hypnotherapist's office usually is quiet and dimly lit to create a relaxing atmosphere. The hypnotherapist chooses a particular method or combination of methods for induction based on the assessment of the client. An induction script may use different types of verbal and visual cues, including the following:
· Use of authority—The hypnotherapist gives instructions in simple declarative sentences (e.g., "As I speak, you will relax.").
· Guided visualization or imagery—The hypnotherapist suggests images or describes a scene for the patient (e.g., "Let your mind drift to a calm and peaceful place. See the wind blowing through the trees, the flowers in the meadow.").
· Quiet music or rhythm—The hypnotherapist speaks in a steady, evenly paced rhythm without varying voice tone. Sometimes the therapist plays music in the background.
· Repetition of words or sounds—The therapist repeats key words or sounds (e.g., "Breathe in deeply . . . ", "As you breathe in . . . ").
· Emotional cues or probes—A hypnotherapy session may be used to gather more information about painful experiences or to help patients cope with difficult emotions. The therapist integrates the inquiries or instructions into the induction script (e.g., "You are in control and will choose to experience or ignore any suggestions during the session.").
· Analogies, metaphors, and associative statements—The hypnotherapist uses comparisons to familiar experiences or images to help clients achieve physical relaxation (e.g., "Your legs are sinking into the couch, heavy as logs." "Feel your body, heavy and relaxed, being supported by the tree behind you, the ground beneath you.").

Clients do not always readily accept suggestions. The hypnotherapist is alert to any sign of negative reactions or abreactions that may occur during the induction. The hypnotherapist guides the client through these feelings or, if necessary, rewords the suggestion during a later session. An abreaction can present itself as a yawn, a frown, a scratch, or movement in the hand or foot.
On occasion, clients might feel somewhat disoriented, or in rare instances, nauseous. Stopping the induction can usually relieve these effects, or they may disappear as the hypnotic state deepens. After the induction, some people report feeling different physical sensations (e.g. tingly, heavy, floating); others feel nothing unusual at all.

Deepening
Next, the hypnotherapist uses deepening techniques to enhance the hypnotic stage. These can include simply continuing the chosen induction, changing to another type, or talking directly to the client.
There are three levels of hypnotic states:
· Hypnoidal—a light stage of hypnosis, characterized by fluttering eye movements
· Cataleptic—a deeper state, characterized by side-to-side eye movements
· Somnambulistic—the deepest state, characterized by the eyes rolling up
The somnambulistic level has three levels. The first two involve a kind of amnesia, that is, the client receives posthypnotic suggestions on a subconscious level and may not remember hearing them. The third level of somnambulism is so deep that a person in this state can undergo major surgery without anesthesia.
For sessions focused on self-improvement or changing unwanted habits, the hypnoidal and cataleptic states are adequate; however, better results can be achieved if the client enters into the cataleptic state.
Before moving on to the utilization stage, the hypnotherapist must be sure that the client is in a hypnotic state and ready to receive posthypnotic suggestions. There are several observable indicators of the hypnotic state:
· Lack of body movement, stillness
· Pallid, waxen complexion
· Rapid eye movements, eyelid fluttering
· Redness around the eyes
· Relaxed posture, slumping
· Slowed breathing
· Swallowing, gulping
· Water or tears in the eyes
Utilization
A posthypnotic suggestion is made during the utilization stage. The posthypnotic suggestion is a verbalized statement of the desired outcome. If taken in and acted upon, the suggestion affects behavior after the client has emerged from hypnosis and returned to regular daily activities. The posthypnotic suggestion is the key to achieving the client's goal.

As long as they are clear and specific in describing the goal, posthypnotic suggestions can be visual or auditory. Only positive suggestions based on the client's suggestibility effectively change behavior. For example, the hypnotherapist might suggest that when a client finds him- or herself in a usually stressful situation, they will not desire a cigarette.

An abreaction, such as a frown or shift in posture, may occur when the suggestion is made. Repeating the suggestion, rewording it, or choosing a different type of suggestion may help the client become more receptive.
By repeating the suggestion to the client in each session, a new conditioned response may be achieved. The repeated chosen key words in the suggestion become associated with the desired outcome. If the client successfully receives the suggestion, he or she begins to formulate internal processes (emotions, visualizations, or dialogues), which help achieve the desired outcome.

After the posthypnotic suggestion has been introduced and developed, the hypnotherapist leads the client into the termination stage.
Termination
Termination is the slow, gradual return to consciousness. Just prior to ending the hypnotic state, the hypnotherapist often repeats that the client is in control of his or her body and mind, and has been in control throughout the session. Several termination techniques may be used; the best known is counting backwards followed by the authoritative command "Wake up." The client opens their eyes and adjusts to the relaxed but aware state that follows hypnosis.